Does Jealousy Belong In A Marriage?

   By: Nila Sullivan

At first, I was writing an article titled, “How Jealousy Ruins Relationship?” I included there a little advice, and a comment about the negative effects of such feelings on a relationship,especially when we let it consume our mind. Wow! I can’t believe that I felt such negative feelings and had such reactions, despite of my giving advice to my readers on how to get rid jealousy. I am convinced about what other’s say, “It’s easier said than done.” But, I am so thankful that God reminds me, with His care and love for me. I know He knows my heart. And I know, He will protect the what He united and binded with His blessing and love.

Yeah, being jealous is easy. There are many negative ideas that come into your mind. You become suspicious and insecure with no reason at all. But it is hard to control especially when there is a somewhat reason to feel jealous toward someone else, especially when you don’t know the person, and you don’t have idea if, or how far she can ruin your control or trust in your partner. I feel so bad within myself, because my faith was somewhat shaken, despite my efforts NOT to feel that way. I only hurt myself when feeling jealous toward the stranger, who is trying to come between me and my husband. Am I suppose to be jealous, when I know my husband loves me so much?

The bible said, Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8″. That’s quite a warning, isn’t it? This is very true, and if you are not aware of any temptation, you can easily become one of his victims. Christians are his (Satan’s) target. This verse is also applicable to myself, of course. I should be self-controlled and alert. It’s the purpose of evil to ruin whomever it can, especially God’s people. To ruin your control, relationship and your trust.

What about the saying, “Behind every man’s fall is a woman.” Huh! shocking to the maximum level. I remember how King David fell from God’s grace because of Bathsheba. I am funny, but I trust my husband, just I don’t trust the world or that stranger. Women, if the man tells you that he is married, please don’t act like you don’t hear the word. Anyway, my husband is right, at least the girl do not take her shower in front of him. (smile). Honey, just don’t ask her to do so, ha ha ha.

Anyway, I am so thankful to God because my husband is so honest with me. He told me about a woman who keeps texting him. Mmmm! tempting him? Well, thank you so much Love, and I am so sorry for my reaction. I just wanna say that its not all about jealousy, but it was me trying to protect our marriage from any negative influences. I love you so much with all my heart, mind and soul. With God’s love, grace and mercy, I will remain with you. You’re the best thing that ever happened to my life. Your the gift that our good Lord gave to me.

Thank you also for this blog site you provided me; for here I can reckon everything, voice my side and share my feelings and thoughts. I should never be insecure with the assurance of God’s love, and your vows before God. I love you.

Wanna share my husband’s vow to me. You can read it and be in-love with it too.

 Nila, I thank the Lord for the love that has bound our hearts and lives together. You are God’s precious gift to me, my springtime, my hope and my joy. Since I have found you, I have found a new life. As we set upon the joy of building a Christian home, I will look to Christ as Head of our home. How blessed I am to be able to say that you are mine, to be able to love and cherish you for the rest of my days. I vow to always put you first in my life, above all others, and always be there to comfort and cry with you in times of sorrow, and laugh with you in times of joy.

As we stand beside the ocean, may our love always be as constant as these never-ending waves. Your love came softly upon my heart, just as the foam comes softly upon the sand. Just as there will never be a morning without the ocean’s waves, so there will never be a day without my love for you. Our love will be as dependable as the tide. Just as these waters nourish the earth and sustain life, may my constant devotion nourish and sustain you until the end of time.

I pledge myself to you this day. I will cherish and love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I will trust and honor you. I will love you faithfully, through the best and the worst, through the difficult and the easy. I promise to love you without reservation, and always be open and honest with you. I promise not to be quick to anger, but to think before I speak and act. I promise to always keep your happiness foremost in my mind.

As this ring represents the never ending circle of our love, I place it on your hand, showing my never ending love for you. With this ring, we are joined at the heart, bonded in our souls, and, like the circle, our love will last forever. I promise that I will lead our love into a life of faith and hope in Christ Jesus. With God’s guidance, our love will never fail.

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